Positive self-talk sounds pretty hippy-dippy but it can make a huge difference in your every day life. If you walk around all day telling yourself you suck and that you are ugly and that you can’t do it (whatever IT is) then it will become true.
“Your mind will be like its habitual thoughts;
for the soul becomes dyed with the color of its thoughts.”
~ Marcus Aurelius
If you don’t take things too personally and you keep your thoughts in the positive you will always have a better day. If you focus on the negatives all day then you will not only run yourself down but likely your day will be bleak. “No thought lives in your head rent free” and each thought you think literally uses some of your body’s electrical energy. You would be surprised at how run down you can get just running through random thoughts in the day.
The War of Art by Steven Pressfield is an amazing book.
Have you ever felt like you just couldn’t get anything done? Like you were just floating from one distraction to another. Phone calls, emails back and forth, up and down. Don’t mistake movement for work. Just because you are running around like a chicken with it’s head cut off doesn’t mean you are truly making headway.
Have you ever left work feeling unfulfilled, looking for distractions (alcohol, drugs, self-dramatization, etc.) to trick your mind into thinking it’s alright?
My meditation bench
I am not a Buddhist monk but I know a little bit about meditation and I have a couple random tips that have helped me day to day. I know you didn’t ask but here they are anyways.
From a technical standpoint meditation is about controlling your thoughts rather than letting them control you. IE, you get mad, you hit someone. Meditation gives you the ability to see the anger and let it pass through you. That is over simplifying things, but my point is, if you are feeling depressed, it can help you identify patterns, it can help you stay calm, reduce stress and have more discipline. If you can consciously stop your mind from wandering and get into the habit of staying with your current train of thought you will be more productive and can stay in the ‘zone’ longer.
I’m reposting this as part of my Advice You Didn’t Ask For series. It helps me out a lot in my life and I think it will help you. Anything to reduce stress is a good thing.
A big item in my life is stress and how to deal with it. I have come across an interesting theory which I will now share with you.
I have been reading a lot of self-help books lately. Actually I hate the fact they are called ‘self-help’ really… I think that if you are not helping yourself by reading books containing techniques from the most successful people then you are really on your own out there in the world with no advantages over the average person.